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  • Writer's pictureLoveday Funck

Let's Pick Up Our Journey Where We Left Off

Last April, I embarked on a program I'd tentatively titled "The Journey to Self-Love: from Shadow to Sunlight". I'd been dealing with emotional turbulence created by my partner, but, here's the thing: no matter how much work I did on me, nothing changed because I was never the problem.

Now that I've been free for almost half a year, I am gaining enough perspective to see the twisted journey of trauma that I'd been on since I met my partner eight long years ago.

And, while my healing journey is only just beginning, I have made much progress. "The Art of Resilience: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Oracle" has entered the printing phase of its journey. We've passed through the dark night of the soul. The sun is rising on our new beginning and it will be wonderful.

I don't have any events planned for a few months as we move into the brutal heat of

summer but my website is up and functioning if you need some surrealism delivered right to your door.

So let's check back into our twenty-step program - The Journey to Self-Love: from Shadow to Sunlight where we left off in January!

Embarking on the journey to self-love is a transformative odyssey, a progression from the shadowy depths of self-doubt to the radiant sunlight of self-acceptance. The first twelve steps lay the foundation for this profound expedition, each offering a crucial milestone on the path to embracing oneself fully. Let's delve into a comprehensive review of these initial steps, uncovering the gems of wisdom that illuminate the way.

1. Identify Your Negative Self-Talk: The journey commences with the essential task of recognizing negative self-talk. Keeping a journal becomes the compass, guiding you through the labyrinth of your thoughts and feelings. This step encourages an honest confrontation with the inner critic, allowing you to challenge and replace detrimental thoughts with more positive affirmations.

2. Practice Self-Compassion: Step into the realm of self-compassion, a sacred space where kindness and forgiveness reign. This step beckons you to be gentle with yourself, embracing both past and present mistakes. Forgiveness becomes a powerful elixir, paving the way for acceptance and self-love.

3. Focus on Your Strengths: The third step invites a shift in perspective, directing attention toward personal strengths. Crafting a list becomes an empowering exercise, setting the stage for goal-setting and the celebration of achievements. In acknowledging your strengths, you illuminate the path to self-discovery and affirmation.

4. Set Realistic Goals: Setting realistic goals emerges as a pivotal step, advocating for a practical and incremental approach. Breaking down aspirations into manageable steps, setting deadlines, and rewarding progress foster a sense of accomplishment and reinforce the belief in your capabilities.

5. Celebrate Your Successes: Celebration becomes a ritual in the fifth step, a testament to the importance of acknowledging victories, no matter their size. By pausing to revel in success, you cultivate motivation and focus, nurturing the positive mindset essential for self-love.

6. Take Care of Your Physical Health: Recognizing the interconnectedness of mind and body, the sixth step emphasizes the importance of physical well-being. Through a balanced diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep, you lay the groundwork for a healthy and harmonious relationship with yourself.

7. Take Care of Your Mental Health: Step seven courageously addresses mental health, advocating for seeking professional help if needed. This step dismantles the stigma surrounding mental health struggles, emphasizing that reaching out is a powerful act of self-love.

8. Spend Time with Positive Influences: Surrounding yourself with positivity is the eighth step's guiding principle. Fostering connections with those who uplift and support you while distancing from negativity creates a nurturing environment essential for personal growth.

9. Do Things That Make You Happy: The ninth step champions the pursuit of joy. By dedicating time to activities that bring happiness, whether reading, communing with nature, or engaging in playful pastimes, you foster a sense of fulfillment and contentment.

10. Learn to Forgive Yourself: Step into the realm of self-forgiveness in the tenth step. Acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes, this step encourages releasing guilt and shame, unlocking the door to a future unburdened by the weight of the past.

11. Practice Gratitude: The eleventh step introduces the transformative power of gratitude. Daily reflections on the positive aspects of life create a shift in focus, fostering a mindset that embraces the abundance of blessings.

12. Spend Time Alone: The final step invites the solitude essential for self-discovery and love. Allocating time alone becomes a sanctuary for relaxation, reflection, and connection with the truest essence of oneself.

In traversing these first twelve steps, you lay the groundwork for a profound metamorphosis—from the shadows of self-doubt to the sunlight of self-love. Each step is a testament to your strength, resilience, and commitment to embracing the beautiful journey of becoming the truest version of yourself. May the subsequent steps in this transformative voyage bring even greater illumination and self-love.

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